3 ways to learn to love yourself

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Self love

"Love yourself first and then everything falls in line"


Love is the most natural feeling we all are born with. Whether it's love for your parents or siblings or anyone special. But did we ever think that while counting the people we love, where we place ourselves? In most cases, the answer would be a big fat NO.  The biggest and most common mistake we all do in our lives is, we are so busy loving other people that we forgot to love ourselves. Love yourself and it will brig a positivity in you life and attitude.

Self-love gives you the strength and courage to make it through tough times of adversity. Self-love can change your attitude and perspective to many things. On the other hand, lack of self-love creates an increase in shame, toxicity, fatigue, and exhaustion.


Following are 3 important tips to cultivate self-love:

1. Do not try to be a perfectionist




Be better not perfect




In today's world, we all are raised with a concept that perfectionism is a great quality to have. But in reality, perfectionism is bad for you. Running behind perfectionism is like running behind an illusion, which you cannot get. It's as bad as addiction or obesity to your health. 

So what can you do to move away from perfectionism? First of all, you should know that perfectionism is not good for you, blaming yourself up over every little error gradually wrangle at your senses of self-worth and make you depressed.

Stop inner bullying it will leads to an unconscious reflex to put yourself down for every minor thing, no matter how ridiculous or unreasonable. Start acting like a real human and humans make mistake and learn from their mistakes that make them better every day.

So, stop running after perfectionism and embrace yourself with mistakes. This will make you fall in love with your own-self and you start feeling happy and contented.


2. Self-Compassion








Having self-compassion builds flexibility for facing any adversity, it helps in recovering more quickly from traumas. Self-compassion encompasses the following three components:

  • Treating yourself with kindness

  • Giving benefit of the doubt to others too

  • Mindfulness 

In words, "self-compassion says, "Be kind to yourself while you are suffering and it will change.' Mindfulness says, "Open to suffering from capacious awareness and it will change"

So, give yourself the compassion and love you deserve. Treat yourself with kindness and empathy. This will boost up your confidence level and you will feel satisfied with yourself.

3. Listen to Yourself




Listening to yourself can mean two things:

  • Firstly, paying attention to how you internally talk to yourself.

  • Secondly, during the time of emotional distress, asking yourself the question "what do I need?" and listening mindfully to the answer can prove valuable.

We are often much harsher to ourselves than we would be to others, then how can we expect others to treat us kindly. So, replace this inner harsh voice with a kinder one. Listen to what your heart says and act upon it.

By following these simple tips you can make yourself happy and contented. Just remember, "Love yourself", be compassionate to yourself and treat yourself kindly.

If you think of any other tip share in the comment box.

Thank you.


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